Saturday, January 29, 2011

Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Week!

(If you're wondering the title of the post is from a children's book ).

This bad week started last sunday night. Alex went to bed at his usual time, but then woke up around 11:30 pm and started throwing up. Ugh. Again. We just went through the stomach flu in this house only three weeks ago. He was pretty sick and miserable on Monday, but then perked up in the evening, even begging me for blueberries which he ate with gusto. Tuesday we went to Mother Goose, but not before missing every possible bus we could miss and showed up late, getting the evil eye from Margaret. Alex stayed by the door for the first half, not wanting to participate. Ok, he's still a bit out of sorts I thought. He perked up at snack time, but then was crabby again by the end. I desperately wanted him to sleep at home, not in the stroller on the way home. Of course he fell asleep on the way home. I hadn't tried the transfer in a while so I thought I'd try. Umm no. Bad idea. Pissy toddler who only got a 15 minute nap. My fault.

Tuesday night I got sick. Very sick. I booked my sister to take Alex like she had done a few weeks ago when I got sick and Husband had to work. Tuesday night, crabby no sleep baby continued to do so, until about 1 am when he finally collapsed from exhaustion. For an hour or so he slept. I spent my entire night alternating between trying to soothe him and being sick myself. Not good. And the husband? Not, um, ahem, helpful. Not at all.

Wednesday Alex started coughing and had a high fever, so my sister took him to the doctor while I got to nap for a couple of hours. I woke up and started disinfecting everything in the house. I felt miserable and Alex looked and acted pretty miserable too. Again, only getting a 20-30 minute nap (when he was up most of the night before). I put him to bed wednesday night and went straight to bed. Just as my head hit the pillow, he started coughing and woke himself up. This pattern would repeat itself another 5 or 6 times. I gave up and slept on his floor, figured it would be easier than trekking across the apartment every 10 minutes. He woke up every 10 minutes, the entire night, finally only sleeping for about an hour, before being UP for the morning.

Thursday he was a zombie, I was a zombie, and still only living off ginger ale. He still wasn't napping so in desperation, I took him out in the stroller. He napped off and on for a good three hours. Good for him, but of course Mama didn't get to nap. Bedtime was a struggle, so I decided to again sleep in his room. At least husband had the good idea to bring up the air mattress that we use for camping (this thing is massive and higher than our actual bed). So I stayed with Alex (better than the floor the night before) and he slept for an hour at a time during the night.

Friday was a slight improvement, he had two one hour naps at home (yay for napping Mama too). Slightly less miserable but still not really eating or drinking much. Husband took the night shift on friday night but then Alex cried out for MAMA at 3am, so off I went. Hmmph.

So today, Saturday, was also a little better. Much less whiny (from everyone in the household). Still not eating and still coughing, and a so-so nap. He went to bed early. Cross your fingers for me.
Edited to Add: Alex slept a solid 10.5 hours last night. Ahh!

So, I tell you all of this, knowing that, yes, all of you have had bad days, weeks, months. I don't want a pity party. I've been so overwhelmed and tired and lonely all week. I miss all of you, miss getting together. I don't want any "poor Jen" replies. Tell me about your week. Something funny, something sad, whatever. I'm tired of the quarantine. I got some fresh air today, now I just need some mental fresh air.

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Holy Crap J! I'm exhausted after reading this!! This will be one of those weeks you tell Alex about when he is older and warn him about when he becomes a parent himself! :)

First and foremost, let me have a chat with that dear hubby of yours. I've got a couple words for him.

Secondly, you are amazing. I don't know how you mustered up the energy to keep going without calling in some recruits (hell, at that point I would of probably paid someone off the street to come help me!). haha.

We here have been amazingly lucky at avoiding any big illnesses with Em. We were just talking about this the other day and I think we are both worried that when it finally does happen we may just both panic and be useless and overbearing. Now I know who to call for advice at least!

That being said, even healthy toddlers find ways to ruin your plans for sleep. Em went through a few weeks awhile back of waking up shortly after we went to bed and being up for a good 4 hours - full of energy and wanting to start the day. We tried everything. She often ended up sitting in bed between us whining to go downstairs, pulling my hair, shoving her fingers in my nose, kicking at the covers until finally just when you think you are about ready to lose it she starts singing some little song and stroking your head or grabs a kleenex and attempts to blow your nose. We then all start giggling but are back to square one in trying to lull her to sleep. I've learned that really, it's a losing battle, may as well embrace the fact that we are up and about at 2, 3, 4 am until finally she crashes and we all get to go back to sleep... for 1.5 hours before my alarm for work goes off.

Thankfully, that phase has passed... for now.

I won't say "poor Jen" ... instead I would like to say "poor Alex"... what a shitty week indeed.

I wish you both lots of undisturbed sleep and good health very shortly.

This is already long but I just want to share one quick story. My sister has been home alone with 3 kids every work week for months now while my brother-in-law has training in Toronto. One night over the xmas holidays they had booked a hotel room and booked a sittter - they were going to get away - alone together which never happens and with undisturbed sleep which also never happens. Last minute sitter cancellation and can't find anyone to come for the night. What happens? My sister quite happily tells disgruntled hubby, "I'm going and you are staying home with the three. I do it all the time while you spend your weeks in hotels."... I believe it was one of her best getaways in years!!!

Jen - book a hotel room. ;)

xx
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A hotel room sounds like just what the doctor ordered Jen! And MC - your sister rocks! What a great idea :) Glad to hear that Em. is back on track and not partying in the middle of the night! Karma hit me for bragging - I was recently bragging that Loic is so awesome because he either sleeps through the night or is up once....now, he's up feeding every 2 hours! I'm hoping it's just a growth spurt.....yikes!
Here's a funny story for you! Yesterday Rand obviously had a poopy diaper...when I asked him if he pooped, he said "no Alex poop"....so please tell your son to stop coming over and pooping in Rand's diaper! :)
1 reply · active 740 weeks ago
Imaginary Alex is having a lot more fun than real Alex! Rand is such a story teller! You're in big trouble when he's a teenager!
HA HA HA!! Oh, M... That's a great story!
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Apparently Barney has also pooped in his diaper.....toilet training, when that day comes, is going to be interesting indeed! :)
OMG what a terrible week. I taught AP to say "shake your booty" this week (accidently), and she says it all the time now. Am I going to get weird looks from strangers when she says this in public?
3 replies · active 740 weeks ago
You must get her saying this on video, I need to see this!
that's funny...I was just singing that today to Rand!
Be careful! That's how AP picked it up! She also says "shake your bum bum" now. I don't think it helps that Iaugh every time she says it...
Thanks for sharing the story of your awful week, Jen. I can't quite believe you had the energy to write about it, as I know all to well the feeling of utter exhaustion that sets in when the little one (and you by extension) isn't sleeping. Oh, and I'm with MC in wanting to have words with the husband... the hotel room sounds like a marrrrvelous idea right about now. ;-)
Here's an idea....maybe we can all go for an overnight stay somewhere and just sleep soundly without interruptions?
This week is OK except I'm feeling more like the author of "Eat, Pray, Love".
i'm praying that it's just a hormonal thing.
Having this freelance thing maybe the wrong way to go because now the husband expects that because I'm home, I can actually cook all the time and do errands...so where do I actually find time to freelance? Crap.
had a fight this morning because it seems that he's sick so I have to make him chicken noodle soup and clean the house because he invited his friend and his wife (and 2 of their kids) over this afternoon. Who gets to do the chores? Me. He can leisurely take his shower, shave, etc. while I take care of the kid, and always have to run to take a quick shower so I can get that pasta ready before it spills over. I haven't clipped my toenails for 2 months nor have I shaved. Nice.
I feel like being divorced.
I hate men.
Jen, I just find it SO -----*ing unfair!!!! I hope next week would be brighter for you.
Wait for my e-mail, we're going to go for a facial!

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